How you can help your Divorce Lawyer from backlier13's blog

While you might expect your divorce lawyer will handle every aspect of your divorce, there are some things you can do that can make it easier for both you and your lawyer. While your lawyer will be responsible for the legal and technical details of your divorce case. However, you must remember that your case is about your life and your particular circumstances. While your lawyer has the law degree and experience handling divorce cases, he or she cannot read your mind. It is important that you play an active role in your case to make sure your lawyer has all the relevant information and is aware your wishes.

Give Your Lawyer Accurate Information

During your divorce, you will be expected to speak openly and honestly with your divorce lawyer. This often means providing all the facts, even if they are deeply personal or embarrassing. Before meeting with your lawyer, you should make a list of all relevant information. The list can be given to your lawyer and used as a guide in discussing your case.

You should also gather and organize all financial and other documents related to the marriage for your lawyer. If your documents regarding all bank accounts, retirement funds, income, marital assets and debts are well organized when presented to your lawyer, it could save valuable time. If you simply hand your lawyer a pile of disorganized paperwork, he or she is likely to be as confused as you would be if he handed you a copy of relevant divorce laws and will need to take the time to sort them all out.

Stick to the Facts and Save the Drama

While your soon-to-be ex-spouse may infuriate you, and may provoke you on purpose during your, you should try to remain calm and focus on important matters. Your divorce lawyer probably doesn't need to hear about how your husband or wife offended your mother or about what your friends say you should do. While your lawyer will need to have all the facts about your case, it is important to remember that time is precious. Any gossip about your spouse's behavior will likely be irrelevant.

It is understandable that you may need an emotional support system and outlet to discuss your frustrations about your spouse. It is not the job of your divorce lawyer to listen to you and offer support. You should surround yourself with a support system and a divorce recovery counselor, if necessary, to meet these needs. Receiving emotional support and counseling may help you speak more calmly with your divorce lawyer and allow you to better present relevant facts